Rarely are parents blessed with twins, however if you are one of the lucky few, embrace it. Twins are a special birth order type and basically make up their own rules. There is no guidelines for any of the birth order types, but twins especially are out of this league. It is very important that you let each one of your children be unique. I would not reccommend dressing the kids alike, even when they are younger, as it sets both you and other people up, for constantly referring to them as "the twins". You must realize that yes while they are twins, this is only one aspect of who they are. It is necessary to let them develop into their own, and to respect and love them because they are different, not to punish them for it. It would also be a good idea that once they express interest in a specific area, to let them explore it more on their own. This will help because their twin will not be by their side in all situations and it is necessary to let them make new friends, to just grow into their own.

 

 

Only children are very complex, and could present somewhat of a challenge, as it is difficult to say no to your baby. However, saying no is imperative in having a well rounded child. Only children tend to be spoiled and believe the world revolves around them. Therefore, I reccommend at the earliest age possible putting an only child in a play group. It can only be for an hour a day, but it needs to happen to get this child familiar with other kids, and to realize the concepts of sharing, and that everything does not revolve around them. An only child will often be sensitive to critisism, therefore do so in a constructive way. Parents should also not try to push all your hopes and dreams on your child as this could result in horrific consequences. If a child feels as though they have to be perfect to obtain your love and respect, he or she is more likely to have stress and anxiety. It is important to let your child know you will love him/her no matter what and that you just want them to do their best.

 

First borns are often very sensitive to criticism as only children are. They tend to be perfectionists, and feel as though they will never quite measure up to the people their parents are. Parents must reinforce to their children that it is okay to fail and that everyone does so, including themselves. It may be necessary to reveal some of your flaws to your first born child so that he/she can see that no one is in fact perfect and that this is okay.

 

 

 

 

Last born children are skilled at getting their way, and will test their limits up until the very end of time. The last born is often manipulative and realizes that he/she can get away with much more than anyone else by simply giving you that babyish grin. Do not fall for it. You must not give in to your last born child just because it is easy, stick by your guns. If the child wants something you wouldn't let someone else have, then don't let them have it, or if the do something you would punish another child for, punish them. If you do not maintain the same consistency with your last born as you did with your other children, then  resentment could follow. The last born child is also attention seeking, and will do just about anything for a good laugh. Do not let them get away with too much however, and be certain that he/she knows that there is a time for play and a time for seriousness. It is is also a good idea to show your last born different children from different birth orders to get them acquainted with kids their own age who are different than they are and who don't treat them like the prince/princess everyone claims they are.